Example: “I stopped using drugs and alcohol on June 15th 1987, therefore I am over 10 years sober.” For the recovering sexual addict however, sobriety can be a more challenging to define.
Unlike sobriety from the use of substances, sexual sobriety is rarely considered to be complete abstinence from sex, though at times recovering persons may use complete sexual abstinence (celibacy) for short periods of time while gaining personal perspective or addressing a particular issue.
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An example of such a plan might be: “I am sober as long as I do not pay for sex, go to strip clubs, or use pornography”.
Another example might be: “I am sober as long as I do not engage in anonymous sex, sex in public places or sex with persons from the phone lines or computer.” These definitions are always discussed at least one other recovering person, therapist or clergy and are not changed without thorough discussion and understanding.
For others, sexual sobriety can be delineated as abstinence from sexual activity which causes the person to feel shameful, to hold secrets or that is illegal or abusive to others.
These more personal definitions may change over time as the recovering person evolves in their understanding of the disease.